5 Things You Need To Know About the Angry Black Woman
Recently we have been thinking about the loosely exploited words “angry black woman”. It has consumed our thoughts mostly because it’s been thrown in our face in many forms over the past few years of our early careers; never in the blatant I’m calling you out of your name kind of way, rather dressed in the disguise of being aggressive, illogical, and emotional. But it has been pretty easy to read in between the lines and honestly it’s pretty irritating. It has, more often than not, felt more like a slur than a descriptive phrase. We have developed quite the thick skin to the outside world whenever these sentiments were unnecessary and flimsily tossed around – until the day one of us heard the words come from my loved one’s mouth…and it hurt.
These three little words of angry black woman can be so abrasive that they deserve their own public service announcement. It is not okay to loosely use these words nor is it okay to perpetuate this as a stereotype that applies to a majority of black women. With us closing out on Women’s History Month, there is no better time to address the topic. Here are the 5 things that you need to know about the Angry Black Woman.
- She does exist. Shocker! We know. We just spent the last couple of paragraphs explaining to you how hurtful the remarks are, only to validate it. But let’s be clear. The Angry Black Woman exists just like the Angry White Man and Angry Asian Woman exist. Angry is an adjective describing a temporary emotion that can be applied to any person, not an undeniable characteristic reserved for black women only.
- If you call a woman angry enough times, she will start to believe it and embody it. Words have power to build and restore or destroy. The title only hardens the woman who may already feel misunderstood, abused and whose boundaries are disrespected.
- Stop confusing and misconstruing ANGER with passion, strong opinions or conviction. These qualities all have their place in productive discourse and are not interchangeable. Take the time to tease out these varying descriptors and think about the perspective that this black woman is coming from. It’s just plain lazy to lump these all together.
- Our words, perspectives, mannerisms and flair are not an accident. Please believe our intelligence deserves an audience irrespective of our skin tone and gender. The latter characteristics have no validity on our knowledge base, although they may shape our experiences, perspectives or delivery. We don’t feel the need to render our voice or thoughts to the soft docile desires of our listeners in an attempt for our opinion to be heard or viewpoint acknowledged as thoughtful.
- This title limits the range of emotions entitled to us as human beings. Angry Black Woman reduces our emotional spectrums to the extremes of either anger or happiness when, obviously, there are numerous shades and flavors in between. Each of these shade should be at minimum acknowledged and respected, if not celebrated.
We believe we speak for ourselves, previous First Lady, Michelle Obama and many misunderstood women out there in saying, that this slur should be buried deep in the Earth’s core; never to rise again. If you are perpetrator of this slur – stop it! If you have been the recipient of this mislabel, recognize your worth and continue to let your Black Girl Magic shine.
Make sure to catch out our Tea & Cookies podcast on this topic premiering April 14th! You can listen right here on WordPress or iTunes!
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